Personality Traits Of Healthy People
According to something I read once, there is a certain personality type that is the healthiest to have, both emotionally and physically. Apparently the so-called "Type 4" personality is the least likely to suffer from mental or physical illness. I don't know whether I'd believe this whole-heartedly. It does smack of blaming the victim a little. But it's interesting and it stuck in my head, so here it is.
The best traits or abilities to either have or cultivate if you want to be healthy are (allegedly):
- Independence. You should find it easy to stay independent in relationships, and recognise that your partner should feel the same.
- Expressiveness. You should be able to openly express and satisfy your emotional needs within your relationships. Rather than having huge rows or burying your rage, you make your feelings known, but acknowledge when matters are trivial.
- Serenity. You are seldom upset for long, even when a lover leaves or does something awful.
- Self-understanding. You are able to feel contradictory emotions, and handle them; recognising that, for example, it is possible to feel both angry and sad, or happy and scared, at the same time.
- Optimism. You remain positive even when things aren't going well.
- Willingness to learn. You learn from experience and if necessary, change your behaviour accordingly.
- High self-esteem. You judge yourself by your own standards alone and are not worried about fulfilling other people's expectations, or about what other people think.
- Focus. You are able to set and work towards long term goals and are willing to accept short term difficulties.
- Boundary setting. You are able to set boundaries, and achieve the closeness to or distance from people that best suits your needs.
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